Loving the Distance?

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I've never been a fan of long distance relationships. I've been there. I've been through the constant and helpless longing for someone who's miles away, so I know how hard it is and how much painful it can be if your heart and mind are not ready.

I salute couples in LDR (long distance relationships). Though I've been there more than once before, I still can't bear the feeling of missing someone so much and not being able to do anything about it. It never gets easy.

I see more people getting into long distance relationships nowadays, possibly because of the advanced technology where we can now talk with our loved ones through voice chat or even with video (or they don't really have a choice). It does help make the distance a li'l bearable. Still, nothing beats the sensation of your special someone's touch on your skin on a cold night.

*sigh*

I've been reading a blog about LDR by Didi Paterno, entitled Loving the Distance. She recently got married to the love of her life, but she's written a lot of inspiring posts that should help anyone who's in a long distance relationship.

I started reading her blog a year ago. And there were some that really hit home, especially about missing your special someone. That's truly the hardest part. I've seen myself go crazy after only a month. Imagine going through the same emotions for a longer period of time. Arrghhhh!

I'm very thankful for our technology today. At least, you can see each other and you can wear anything you want, in your pajamas, or even equestrian clothing (after going horseback riding, if you're into that). No need to get all dolled up for a "date".

But sometimes, it does make the longing worse. I even find myself staring on my computer screen and wanting to touch it just to help me imagine more that I'm touching the face of the person on the other end.

Long distance relationships are not for the faint of heart. I consider myself strong when it comes to controlling my emotions, but I'm still having difficulty dealing with it. It's like every minute, I feel this nagging pain in my heart. Or maybe it's because of something else entirely, I'm not sure. *sigh*

The last time I was in an LDR, it kind of worked for me in the sense that I had a ton of "me" time. But, still, that loneliness lurks up from behind you and pricks your heart every time. And you'd wish you can be with your special someone in a flick of your fingers.

Can I last in a long distance relationship? I'm not quite sure because the longest I've been away from my special someone was for 3 months. I don't know if I can surpass that record and not go crazy after a year of waiting.

I guess only time will tell. I don't know how everything will play out, but all I know is I'd want to end up with someone who can be there for me physically, mentally and emotionally. I miss holding hands with someone. I miss the hugs and kisses from someone I truly love and who loves me back. If it's with him, then good. If time and circumstances won't allow it, I'm sure glad our paths crossed again.

In the meantime, I need to keep myself busy to get my mind off this yearning. >_<

Back to work, Mhel.

(Image credit: Long Distance)