Pardon if my thoughts in this post don't flow as smoothly as you'd want it. I'm just typing whatever comes to mind. I feel so strongly about this topic that I'm just typing away. And I chose that post title because, well, read on. Though the title is leaning towards controversial, this is a SERIOUS post.
Last night, I had this conversation with someone who inspired me to write this post. No, it wasn't in a good way, obviously from the title alone. This is a result of how he expressed his views on gays and their relationships, which made me realize how strongly I feel towards this subject.
You think he and the conversation couldn't be THAT bad, eh? Well, consider these…
- How about hearing him say "Eeeww" about the idea of gay couples?
- Him laughing oh-so loudly about the idea of him being with a man?
- Or how he insisted I SHOULD be WITH a man because men are just oh-so different and BETTER?
- And, oh, how about the number of times he repeated that and his disgust of gays during our less than 2 hours of conversation over the phone AFTER I told him I was in a same sex relationship the last time?
By the way, I was taking notes while I was talking with him. I continued on with it for over an hour so I can get more inspiration for this post. Well, I gotta thank him then, eh? *LOL* - In between all that, he was using the Bible, saying God made man for a woman, blah blah blah. That it was JUST wrong and sinful. How about THAT?!
Isn't he just disgusting?! I can't even fathom how someone can be SO scared and insecure about himself that he had to diss all gays to feel better about himself and his manhood. Really, it's HILARIOUS!
Oh, by the way, you boasting about using Belo products and having very smooth skin 'cause you're too vain doesn't make you sound so macho. You have a gay side, you see. And there's nothing wrong with that. We call it now as "metrosexual". Hence, the title of this post.
If you've been following my blogs or known me for quite sometime now, you'd probably already know that, one, my brother's gay, and, secondly, I was in a same sex relationship for 5 years. So, with that information, you know how I feel about gays, lesbians, transgenders and bisexuals.
I've written a post about gays before and I still feel strongly towards the topic of same sex relationships, even now that I'm no longer with Mai. Though my 5 years with her was my first same-sex relationship, I honestly can say that I now fully understand what they go through and I support them more strongly now than ever.
This is why I am disgusted by HOMOPHOBES. Y'know, people who are scared of homosexuals (gays, bisexuals, lesbians, and transgenders) and express their hate towards them through discrimination or by being plain mean. C'mon, you people. IT'S NOT CONTAGIOUS!
I've been with homophobes and even became friends with some of them. I'm proud to say I was able to change their minds that they now are okay with gay people, even if they're still against gay marriage. That's still progress, right?
Yes, there are people who are okay with gay couples, but are just not agreeable with them getting married. I respect their opinion, really. Anyway, I know they can only use the Bible to justify their opinion. And when you quote the Bible, what else can you say?!
I'm not into reading the Bible. I have a very strong opinion about it being written by MAN. I did enjoy reading stories and reflecting on it when I was younger. But, now that I'm older and more mature, I have a closer, personal relationship with God, which I believe makes me a better person. I don't need the Bible to know what to do. The simple Golden rule is all I need - Do unto others what you want others to do unto you. It's all about EMPATHY. And people who really know me will tell you I grew up a strong, independent and kind woman. I may not be as generous or kind as others because I haven't done real charity work yet, but I know I'm a much better person than most Bible-reading people out there.
I hate it when people use the Bible to justify them being mean to others or judging them. That's just disgusting and stupid. God will NEVER discriminate. God will NEVER give you the RIGHT to judge or mistreat others in HIS name.
I believe in my God who accepts us for whoever we are, whoever we choose to love, and whatever lives we choose to lead. My God loves everyone - straight, bisexual, gay, transgender, lesbian, Muslim, Christians, EVERYONE! And what matters to Him is how we love, care for and treat others. What can you say about YOUR God?
This brings me back to my conversation yesterday with this disgusting person. He said there's something wrong with gays. Like, seriously?! *LOL* Have you looked at the mirror lately?!
No, nothing's wrong with GAYS. Just because they have a different way of life than what you consider NORMAL, you can already say there's something seriously wrong with them. Yes, there are gays who act and talk crazy, but c'mon. You straight people are no different!
Yes, I'm considering myself part of the gays now. Though I was straight as an arrow before my last relationship with a woman and I'm not attracted to the same sex, I still belong with them. 'Cause I've already been there. I loved like they loved. This reminds me of this famous line from The L Word, "You're straight 'til you're not".
I happen to know a lot of gay people - lesbians, transgender, and gays - who are smart, responsible, respectful, kind, and way better HUMANS than other straight people I know. So, please. Stop thinking straights are better than gays.
Even straight couples can't get the whole relationship thing right. Anyone telling me that my last relationship didn't work because I was in it with another woman is just ignorant. Yeah, I can say that my last relationship was too emotional for me to handle. But, it wasn't because I was with another woman who undergo the same emotional rollercoaster I go through. I've experienced the same with my past boyfriends, 2 to be specific, so I know it's not because I was in a same sex relationship.
I know gay couples who have been together for years, decades and even grew old together, raised their own families, and are so happy and fulfilled with their lives. Who's to say God doesn't love them?!
Most people think that being gay is just all about LUST. It's not. I've seen, and even experienced it myself, wherein people are in the same sex relationship because of LOVE… deep, sincere, REAL LOVE. I even experienced love that I've never felt before, and might not be able to feel again (still hoping though). That's why I strongly say that if you don't UNDERSTAND how it is to fall in love with the same sex, you have NO RIGHT to judge or discriminate against them. You have no right to talk crap about gays. You have no idea how hard it is to live their lives because of mean people who consider themselves "God-fearing" no matter how hypocritical they treat others and live their lives.
I admit, I had my own mixed feelings about the gay life when I was younger, when I found out my brother was gay. I did. I wished he was straight (my bro knows about this). It wasn't because of the Bible or because I think it was a sin. It was mainly because I knew he'll lead a harder life because of his choice. But, now, his being gay is one thing I love about him. He may not believe me, but it's so true. And I will fight for him, defend him with all my life.
When I fell in love with someone of the same sex, that was when I understood how it felt. I knew I wasn't attracted to women. I was still attracted to men. BUT, I felt that love fill up my whole being and I couldn't think of anything else but how much I love this person, a woman. And that's all that mattered. I fought for it. Though we're no longer together, I knew that my being with her had its purpose. It made me understand what it feels like to be in a same sex relationship. Believe it or not, gays also feel TRUE LOVE.
By the way, I just want to share this observation. Most people I know who are okay or open about gay couples/relationships are those who I enjoy having conversations with. Why? Because I know they're not judgmental and are understanding and respectful.
I respect the fact that we've got different opinions on this topic. I do. REALLY. What I don't respect is people being mean to others because they believe differently.
I'm sorry but I can NEVER stand someone who is HOMOPHOBIC. I love my gays! I FRICKING LOVE THEM! And I'm going to stand and support them in whatever rights they're fighting for.
YES TO GAY MARRIAGE.
Get over yourself.
God loves everyone.
I end this post with Lady Gaga's Born This Way.
You might want to read this post, too:
"They are preserving the sanctity of marriage, so that two gay men who've been together for twenty-five years can't get married, but a guy can still get drunk in Vegas and marry a hooker at the Elvis chapel! The sanctity of marriage is saved!"~ Lea DeLaria
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